New Year, New Relationship: How To Make A Couple’s Resolution
Tis the season for resolutions, whether that’s eating better, exercising more, or saving money. Once you make that commitment, though, will you actually stick to it? If you’re like most people, you’re unlikely to make it to the end — on average only 9% of people feel they successfully follow through on their resolutions in any given year. Most resolutions just aren’t designed for success, but making a shared commitment can help you meet your goals, and maybe even choose better resolutions to pursue. That’s why you and your partner should consider making a couple’s resolution this year.
What Makes A Good Joint Resolution?
If you’re going to make a joint resolution with your partner, the first step is to start talking. What resolutions would you make independently? If you both want to lose weight or exercise more, then a traditional resolution might work for you, but it’s also worth considering relationship-focused resolutions. Some popular couple’s resolutions include:
- taking turns planning date night
- complimenting each other more often than you complain
- thanking your partner for something every day
- emphasizing physical contact
Make SMART-er Resolutions
Once you and your partner have identified a theme for your joint resolution, it’s time to fine-tune it, and that means making your resolution SMART-er. SMART is a goal setting acronym that comes in several different variations depending on whether it’s a personal goal, a professional one, or even an athletic goal. In the context of your relationship, though, the general idea is that any resolution should be Specific, Meaningful, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-sensitive. But how do you know if your resolution is SMART?
Typically the “specific” element of making a SMART resolution is the most challenging part of the equation; a resolution like “go on more dates,” for example, isn’t specific enough. To make your resolution more effective, you need to add details, such as “go on a date every week.” You should also set parameters. Can date night happen at home? How long does an outing have to last to count as a date? It may seem nit-picky, but specificity is the best way to ensure that you stick with your resolution and don’t get lazy a few months into the year.
Be Better — Together
The most valuable thing about making a joint New Year’s resolution is that you and your partner have the benefit of supporting each other with the goal of becoming your best selves — and we’re all more likely to stick with our goals when we have someone holding us accountable. Still, even with your partner on board, we could all use a little extra help. Give your resolution an extra boost in 2019 by signing up for Emi.
In less than one minute a day, Emi can help you build positive relationship habits and encourage communication with your partner, and those tiny texts can help make your goals more attainable. Remember, even though we tie our resolutions to January 1st, this is about building real, lasting habits. Even if you slip, don’t give up. You and your partner can go the distance together.